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Do It Now Syndrome

Polly Stevens



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DO IT NOW SyndromeI posted the following words on facebook the other day.

I caught something overnight! Woke up this morning with a case of “Do It Now Syndrome”. Not sure where I caught it – or how – but it’s truly amazing! Didn’t realize just how many things I put off because they can wait – or how often I did that: until this morning that is! I’m loving this feeling – hope it lasts!

I can phrase what I’m talking about as any of these:

  • Procrastination Vs Do It Now!
  • Laziness Vs Do It Now!
  • I’ll get round to it Vs Do It Now!
  • I’ve got to write a plan first Vs Do It Now!

Planning for anything might be necessary as part of an everyday process, but the joy is in the actual doing; in taking the action and doing whatever it is that needs to be done!

It is just so darned easy to put things off!

And every time we do put something off we feel disappointed in ourselves; just a little bit each time; and those little bits add up over time. They add up quite rapidly actually; without us noticing it at a conscious level. But that adding up to lots of little incidences leads to massive guilt; even depression if allowed to linger longer.

It doesn’t matter if we’ve got what seems like the right intention to do something later that day; later that week; or later that month! They’re usually poor excuses for finding distractions to what we really should be doing; and from doing it now! Distractions are usually self-sabotage; or the fear of doing something; so we have to learn to challenge ourselves and Just Do It! and Do It Now!

Note for facebook this evening:

I’ve still got this Do It Now Syndrome! … and hoping that it’s incurable.

I am truly getting a buzz from doing things that I would normally have put off until a ‘better time’, and doing them as I see them; or as I walk past them. I am not kidding – within just 24 hours I have embraced this new behaviour – and am loving it! Yes – the joy is in the doing!

(c) Phil Evans – People Stuff TM – 2011

Phil Evans is a Motivator, Business Coach, Life Coach and Inspirational Writer specialising in Relationship Dynamics and Adoption Issues. You can visit his website at: and join his newsletter.


10 Success Principles of High Achievers That You Can Copy

Tara Christie



10 Success Principles of High Achievers That You Can Copy

How to be high achievers?

Do you want to be successful? Most everyone does, but not everyone wants to do the things that they need to do to get that success. High achievers are driven to accomplish more than the average person, but they aren’t superheroes. Anyone can achieve more success in their life by following a few basic success principles that high achievers already follow.

1. Overcome Procrastination

Principles of High Achievers

Procrastination keeps you from your goals, but it also gives you insight into how badly you want to achieve the goals you have created. High achievers know that procrastinating is a sign that something needs to change.

– Maybe the goal is not something they really want
– Maybe they have too much going on at once
– Maybe the task is too big and causing too much stress
– Maybe it’s time to create new tasks

They see procrastination for what it is and then take action to overcome it. Once procrastination is out of the way, they can easily follow through on other important success principles, and you can too.

2. Consistently Take Action

Principles of High Achievers

If you want something badly enough, you have to act consistently on it. You can’t take some action today, wait a week, and then take some more action and expect a ton of success. You have to do it daily.

Every action you take is another step towards your goal. Even if the action doesn’t seemingly move you towards your goal, it teaches you something to help you move towards your goal. So, figure out what actions you need to take and then consistently take them.

3. Manage Time Effectively

Principles of High Achievers

You can take all the action you want on a task that doesn’t move you quickly towards your goals, or you can take action on a task that really helps you make big leaps. High achievers recognize the tasks that have the most impact on their success and make good use of their time by focusing on them more than other tasks.

While some people can get away without using a schedule, most people should follow a predetermined schedule that allocates various amounts of available time to certain tasks. Sit down, decide how long you have to work during the day, and the divide your time up in a way that will help you achieve the most success.

4. Develop Good Habits

Principles of High Achievers

Overcoming procrastination, taking action, and managing time can all be considered good habits that help high achievers reach success. But there are many non-work habits that they implement in their life too.

For example:

– Working during hours that they are most focused and energetic
– Eating right to support good energy and clarity
– Exercising to support good energy and clarity
– Balancing work life with personal life
– Getting enough sleep through the night to stay physically and mentally capable
– Reducing stress to stay motivated and optimistic

While developing good habits is one of the top success principles of high achievers, the habits vary from person to person. You may use meditation to alleviate stress, where someone else may go for a walk in nature. Whatever works for you is what you should focus on doing.

5. Work Closely With Other High Achievers

Principles of High Achievers

The founder of Mindvalley has this success principle down pat. Vishen Lakhiani has a team of people who are optimistic and eager to grow, both as employees and as individuals. It’s hard not to be excited about what you are doing when you are surrounded by people who are excited about what they are doing.

If you are an employee, surround yourself with optimistic and hardworking people.

If you are a boss, hire people who are forward thinkers and excited to make a difference.

And if you are the sole person in your business, surround yourself with like-minded business owners who are passionate about their business and striving to be successful.

6. Be Passionate

Principles of High Achievers

Another one of the biggest success principles is that you need to be able to put your heart and soul in what you are doing or you will never be passionate enough to consistently work towards achieving your goals.

High achievers are doing what they love as a career. Business owners, employees, and freelancers who are focused on doing what they love have the drive to achieve more than someone who is having to face the daily grind of doing something don’t enjoy every day.

If you do not feel passionate about what you are doing, then it may be time to find something new.

7. Develop Helpful Beliefs

Principles of High Achievers

What you believe will have a huge influence over what you do with your life. High achievers believe in themselves and what they are working towards.

For instance, they believe things like:

– I deserve to be successful
– Doing all tasks, boring or not, is valuable for my success
– I enjoy waking up each day and discovering what it will bring
– I can consistently develop my skills to become better and more successful
– I am capable of doing whatever I put my mind to

And on and on it goes.

If you believe negative and unhelpful things about yourself and your ability to achieve success, then it’s time to work on changing those beliefs. Once you do, it will be much easier to put all of the other success principles into action.

8. Create Lucky Breaks

Principles of High Achievers

High Achievers don’t leave things up to chance. They don’t sit back and cross their fingers that opportunity is going to fall in their lap. Instead, they work hard to ensure they are in the right places, taking advantage of the right opportunities and opening the right doors when they need to be opened.

If you think that chance is going to bring you the success you desire, then you are never going to achieve the type of success that you want. Luck is created, and you have the ability to create it.

9. View Failure As Opportunity

Principles of High Achievers

Everyone, including the most successful people in the world, faces failure. It is a part of reaching success, and high achievers understand this very well.

Failure is not a permanent roadblock, it is just an obstacle that teaches you important lessons, such as what doesn’t work or how to believe in yourself. Once you learn to accept failure as a positive thing, there will be nothing that you cannot reach.

10. Clearly Define Goals

Principles of High Achievers

If you don’t know where you are going, it is really hard to get there! You need to have a clear vision of your goal in order to understand where you need to focus your effort. Not everyone really understands where they want to go in life or what success they want to achieve, and that is what separates the high achievers from the average person.

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Delicious Keto Chocolate Milk – Easy – Tasty – Low Carb

Kyran Doyle



low carb keto chocolate milk mix

If you’re going keto and thought that mean an end to enjoying a glass of chocolate milk, think again!

While traditional chocolate milk is chock full of sugar (pardon the pun) and is a big no-no on the keto diet, there is good news…

It is actually possible and not to mention quick, easy and delicious to make homemade keto chocolate milk.

It’s a simple as a glass of milk with a few extras and you’ll be enjoying a tasty chocolate drink in a matter of minutes!

The best thing is it stores well in the fridge and goes down great as an after dinner treat or anytime you crave a something sweet. You can even combine it with other drinks and smoothies which we will cover later.

This recipe is so simple you can literally be enjoying it in the time it takes you to finish this article. So get ready and lets make some low carb chocolate milk!


How To Make Keto Chocolate Milk

Making this keto chocolate milk mix is as simple as combining a few ingredients in a blender and giving it a wiz! You’ll be sipping low carb chocolate milk in no time I promise. However I thought I would give you a few tips that I’ve picked up a long the way that will help you get the best glass of keto chocolate milk your very first time!


Use low carb milks

It’s not a big surprise that traditional chocolate milk is not keto friendly. What might surprise you is that it’s not just the added sugars that make it a danger for keto dieters.

In fact there’s actually a lot of carbs that naturally occur in regular milk. If you’ve been on the keto train for a while now you’ve probably already realised this but it is important to note.

Here’s a breakdown of the carbs in a normal glass of milk.

carbs in chocolate milk


Luckily though there are a few helpful alternatives that we can use that taste just as good without the extra carbs.

To make this keto chocolate milk live up to its name and be “keto” we need to use a low carb milk.

The two low carb milks that I recommend are almond milk or coconut milk. I have used almond milk for this recipe however you can substitute in any low carb milk you have in the fridge at the time.

Another option would be to go the heavy cream route. This is possible too however if you are going to, I would suggest doing a mixture of heavy cream and almond or coconut milk as the heavy cream will be very thick and rich on its own.

It’s always a good practice to check the labels of the products you buy as some company’s sneak sugar and carbs into their products. So make sure your almond or coconut milk isn’t secretly hiding 10+ grams of sugar!


Cacao vs Cocoa

To get the great chocolate-y flavour in our keto chocolate milk we are going to be using cacao powder.

You may have heard news stories talking about the health benefits of eating chocolate. Usually what these studies are referring to isn’t your regular store bought chocolate they are talking about cacao.

So what’s the big difference between cocoa and cacao? Besides a few letters of course!

I think Food Matters explain it best:

“Raw cacao is made by cold-pressing un-roasted cacao beans. The process keeps the living enzymes in the cacao and removes the fat (cacao butter).

Cocoa looks the same but it’s not. Cocoa powder is raw cacao that’s been roasted at high temperatures. Sadly, roasting changes the molecular structure of the cacao bean, reducing the enzyme content and lowering the overall nutritional value.”

This results in Cacao having more antioxidants and nutrients.

So not only are you going to enjoy a delicious keto chocolate milk you are actually getting some beneficial antioxidants as well.

It just keeps getting better doesn’t it!

Keto milk chocolate


Keto Chocolate Milk Variations

This is a simple and easy keto chocolate milk recipe but the best thing about it is the amount of additional ingredients you can add to mix up the flavours or adjust the nutrition.

It’s like a blank canvas! Perfect as it is but so easy to mix up should you feel like it.

If you’d like your chocolate milk to have a little more chocolate flavour. Simply stir in a little extra cacao powder. If that’s not to your liking you can add a little extra stevia to make the drinks slightly sweeter.

Here are some other great ideas to mix up your traditional drink. Simply throw in one or more of these ingredients to the blender to create a different spin on the classic!

  • Creamy nut butter. Almond and peanut work great.
  • A few drops of vanilla extract make a tasty addition.
  • Orange zest or extract. We all know orange and chocolate are great together!
  • MCT Oil. Add some extra healthy fats to your drink!
  • Spices like cinnamon or nutmeg can work well.
  • Berries and other low carb fruits can also make a nice change.


Do I Need To Use A Blender?

If you don’t have access to a blender or just don’t want the extra clean up you can make this keto chocolate milk by hand.

I will say that a blender does make easier work and helps to combine all of the ingredients best especially if you are adding some of the extra ingredients mentioned above.

However the important thing is that it is possible to stir everything in with a spoon if you need to.

low carb chocolate milk

How To Serve Keto Chocolate Milk?

This low carb chocolate milk mix is great as is but it also works with a whole heap of other keto recipes too.

Why not try:

  • Chocolate coffee. Heat the mixture up and add it to your coffee for a chocolate hit.
  • Add flavour to your low carb smoothies instead of just using milk.
  • Low carb cocktails. If you’re in the mood for a drink, why not try adding your favourite low carb alcohol.


Keto Chocolate Milk Mix Recipe

Get ready to enjoy a tasty chocolate milk without the carbs. If you’re a fan of chocolate milks I think this recipe will soon become one of your favourites. Make sure to let me know what you think and any other ideas you have for this recipe in the comments below.

Also once you’ve given it a try leave a rating below.

Keto Chocolate Milk

A Delicious Keto Chocolate Milk Recipe

  • 2 cups Low Carb Milk (coconut or almond)
  • 2 tbsp Cacao Powder
  • 3 tbsp Stevia Powder
  • 1 pinch Sea Salt (or himalayan)
  1. Add milk to the blender then throw in the dry ingredients.

  2. Blend and pour into glasses to enjoy!

If you enjoyed this low carb chocolate milk recipe why not check out this post on 121 Keto Friendly Snacks.

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Ultimate Leg Workout For Mass – The Best Leg Exercises For Serious Size

Kyran Doyle



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Leg day.

You either love it or hate it, but the fact that you are reading this article would indicate that you are looking to get more out of your leg workouts.

If you want to build a strong, athletic physique, a set of powerful legs are the foundation.

That means you need to focus on the right leg exercises to build mass and strength.

A common occurrence in guys is to focus on the chest, back and arms and fail to give the lower body the emphasis that it needs and deserves.

I get it, leg training can be hard, and it can be easy to give in to the temptations of not turning up to the gym on leg days or making a last minute change to your routine to hit a second chest day this week.

I have to warm you though that focusing your workouts on the upper body “show muscles” that look good in singlets and you can end up looking like this.

never skip leg day


Leg training can be rewarding, not only by giving you a set of tree trunks for legs, but yes it is possible to start loving your leg workouts as much as your other gym workouts.

Having strong legs will help you in all facets of life.

If you’re an athlete and want to be more explosive and powerful, proper leg training will help you.

If you’re a normal guy or gal having a strong base will help you in all kinds of activities.

If you’re all about the looks, your physique isn’t complete without a strong, muscular set of legs.

The bottom line is no matter who you are you need to be training your legs.

In this article we are going to break down the best leg workouts and exercises that you can do to get bigger, stronger and more toned legs and start to enjoy training legs.


The Low Down on the Muscles in Your Lower Body.

leg exercises

Before you figure out how to build the muscles in your legs you first need to know what they are and how they work together.

The major muscle groups in your legs are.

  • The glutes
  • The quadriceps
  • The hamstrings
  • The calves


The Glutes

The gluteus muscles or glutes are made up of three muscles that form your backside.

  • Gluteus Maximus
  • Gluteus Minimus
  • Gluteus Medius

This is how they look:

glute anatomy

A well developed butt does more than just look great in jeans.

The gluteus muscles play a key role in stabilising our body throughout our day to day lives. They are also the recruited to generate force in lifts like the deadlift and squat.

Sedentary lifestyles that involve a lot of sitting can result in the glutes becoming overstretched and underused.

A typical leg workout comprised of compound exercises will activate the glutes and train them sufficiently.

However if you feel your glutes need extra attention or just want your booty to pop then there are some specific exercises that can target them directly like the hip thrust.


The Quadriceps

The quadriceps are the four (hence the name) large muscles that make up the top, front of your legs.

The four muscles are:

  • The vastus lateralis.
  • The vastus medialis.
  • The vastus intermedius.
  • The rectus femoris.

This is how the muscles of the quads look:

anatomy of quadriceps

The quadriceps muscles work together to extend (straighten) the knee.

The quads are the “show ” muscles of your legs. They make up the bulk of the size of your legs and are what creates that tear drop effect down next to your knee.


muscular quads

Leg exercises like the back squat, front squat and lunges are all great movements to train the quads.



The hamstrings are three muscles that form the back of your legs.

  • Semitendinosus
  • Semimembranosus
  • Biceps femoris

This is what they look like:


The hamstrings are responsible for knee flexion, hip extension and rotation on the knee joint when flexed.

Although the hamstrings are a crucial muscle they can often get overlooked in workout routines. As the quads are bigger and more visible they often get the most attention in the gym.

As with any muscle groups, training one side of the body more than the other will lead to imbalances which not only look strange but can lead to injury.

If you think that squatting alone will be enough to train your hamstrings you are mistaken.

Squats are a great lower bod exercise, however the quads do the predominant amount of work in the lift.

So it is beneficial to include exercises like the romanian deadlift in your workout that focus more one the posterior muscles of the legs.



The calves are made up of two muscles on the back of your lower leg.

  • The gastrocnemius
  • The soleus

This is what they look like:

calf anatomy


The calves are the thorn in the side of many a lifter.

They’re small stubborn muscles that can take what seems like an eternity to grow.

While some people won the genetic lottery and have developed nice, big calves the rest of use have to work hard to grow out of our toothpicks.


Leg Training Principles

When looking to train your legs to grow muscle naturally there are many ways that people are told to go about it.

There are machines, bodyweight programs, and free weights. You can do heavier, strength style training for less reps or lighter weights for more reps.

When it comes to leg training here are the principles you need to follow:


Heavy Compound Exercises

The best type of training for natural lifters is heavy compound lifts. To build muscle you have to put a lot of overload onto your legs. Without and increase in overload your legs will not need to grow. This means you need to load up on the basic compound lifts like squats, leg presses and romanian deadlifts in the low rep ranges.

While bodybuilding magazines may be pushing other fancy high rep routines with drop sets and supersets, this is not the best way to go.

The common thinking behind higher rep training is that that it is safer on your joints, so you can do more volume and grow bigger without risking an injury.

The problem is that the people that high volume training works best for are usually on steroids. They can do rep after rep and continue to grow without risking an injury on their tendons and ligaments which wouldn’t be able to handle heavier loads at that same amount of volume.

So stear clear of the machines and don’t be afraid to squat heavy!


Progressive Overload

If you are looking to build muscle this should should be your one focus. If you don’t continue to get stronger you won’t continue to get bigger.

This means that you need to track your workouts to make sure each time you walk into the gym you know what you need to do to improve on last session.

Each session you should be focusing on getting an extra rep than you did last session.

So lets say for example you did the barbell back squat and performed 4 reps at 250 lbs. The next session you train you would want to aim for 5 reps at 250 lbs.

If you are training in the 4-6 rep range you would want to build that up until you can hit 6 reps. Once you get 6 reps, your next set you will add more weight and aim for 4+ reps again.


Leg training sins

When training your legs there are a lot of common mistakes you can make.

Make sure you avoid these 3 sins of leg training:

-Focusing on high rep training

As we explained before, if you want to put on size and strength then you need to be lifting heavy.

In fact you should aim for the majority of your leg exercises to be compound movements and heavy lifting (80 to 85% of 1RM and higher.)

-Doing the wrong exercises

Too many people spend too much time on the machines at the gym. Machines like the leg extension and other isolation exercises don’t allow you to lift heavy weight. Make sure the bulk of your exercises are heavy compound lifts and save the isolation movements to the end of you workout.

-Using poor technique

Half reps are only part of the problem here. You need to make sure you are going all the way down in your squats but also avoid other common mistakes like rounding your lower back and bowing the knees in. After all, you can get bigger if you’re injured.



leg press compound movement

An important and sometimes overlooked part of training is getting the right volume. By volume I am referring to the amount of weekly reps you perform on each major muscle group.

If you do too little volume then your training will progress slowly. The other mistake is to go out guns blazing and do too much volume which can also lead to overtraining in the long run.

This becomes important to be aware of if you are focusing on heavy weightlifting as the rule goes:

The heavier you train, the lower your weekly volume needs to be.

Training with heavier weights requires a longer recovery period. This means you can’t do as much every week.

When training with weights in the range of  80+% of your 1rm, reviews have shown optimal volume to be around 60 to 70 reps every 5 to 7 days.

Rep Ranges:

Your legs will respond best to heavy compound lifts and progressive overload. I like to aim for the 4-6 rep range. This allows you to lift heavy and build the maximum amount of muscle.


Best Leg Exercises

Now to the part you’ve been waiting for. When it comes to leg workouts there are dozens of different leg exercises that you can use. Of the many exercises available there are a few that stand tall as the best options to add real size and strength to your legs.

The best exercises to add real size and strength to your legs are:

Barbell Back Squat

You’re probably not surprised that the squat is at the top of the list of leg exercises that you need to be doing.

The barbell back squat is a full body compound movement however a large amount of work is done by the legs.

People can often say that the squat is an unsafe exercise or that it’s bad for your knees. This is only the case when the squat is performed with incorrect form.

Here is how to correctly (and safely) perform the barbell back squat.


Barbell Front Squat

The barbell front squat is a variation of the back squat that puts more emphasis on your quads than the back squat (which involves more hamstring). The other benefit of the front squats is it puts less stress on your knees and lower back, which can be beneficial if you have problems in those areas.

The front squat can feel awkward at first but the more you do it the the better it will feel.

This is how to perform the front squat.



The lunge can be done with either a barbell across your back or with dumbbells in your hands.

The barbell lunge is a great exercise for your legs.

Here is how to perform the exercise correctly.

Leg Press

The leg press is my favourite machine for training legs.

There is a couple of variations of leg press machines. There is the more upright variation that usually has a weight stack and you press the weight straight out and back.

Then there is the 45 degree angle variation. I prefer this one as you aren’t limited by the weight in the stack and you can get a better range of motion.

Here’s how you do it.

Romanian Deadlift

The romanian deadlift is a variation of the deadlift that allows you to isolate the hamstrings.

This is how the exercise should look.


Calf Raise

The calf raise is the standard calf training exercise. There are a lot of variations that you can perform during your workouts. The 3 ways I like to perform calf raises are:

  • Standing
  • Seated
  • With the leg press

I like to rotate between these variations of calf raises on my leg days.

Here is the standing calf raise:


The Best Leg Workout


Barbell Back Squat

3 sets 4-6 reps

Leg Press

3 sets 4-6 reps

Romanian Deadlift

3 sets 4-6 reps

Calf Raises

3 sets 8-12 reps

Barbell Lunge 

3 sets 4-6 reps


Give yourself a full 3 minutes rest between each set. If this sounds long to you, that’s okay. If you’re going to be lifting heavy you need to give your body time to recoup strength before going again.

Once you can complete 6 reps on an exercise it is time to add more weight.

Remember the golden rule of muscle building.

Progressive overload

You have to continue to add weight to the bar if you want your legs to grow.


Like This Workout? You’ll Love These:

The Best Chest Workout

The Ultimate Back Workout

The Ultimate Arm Workout

The Push Pull Legs Bible

The Best Tricep Workout


What do you think of this leg workout? Let me know your thoughts in the comments section below.

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Wiping out those tears on your eyes

Tara Christie



Wiping out those tears on your eyes

When we cry and someone comforts us we feel like that they relieved those pain in our heart. Wiping out our tears on our eyes is like a heaven that those hurt feelings will be gone.

A lot of people think that going through a heartache or a relationship lost is the greatest pain one could ever experience. I was definitely one of those people who thought that way until I realized that there is something far greater and more painful than having a broken heart.

The pain I experienced, one excruciating Sunday, was certainly the worst a person could ever feel. It was early morning when the beeping of my cell phone suddenly awakened me from a very peaceful sleep. At around 9 a.m, I was groping for my phone somewhere around my bed and under my pillows since I have the habit of propelling too much when sleeping. As usual, I expected to read morning messages from friends who always take the time to remind me that friendship still reigns despite distance and time. This is my typical Sunday morning, or so I thought.

After ten minutes of exploration, I successfully managed to locate my phone ad quickly opened it with much anticipation. However as I scrolled down my inbox, much to my excitement, I was shocked and horrified with what I was reading. The messages contained one same thing: My friend was dying. I found it hard to breathe at that moment. It was as if everything stopped around and inside of me. I could not move. I could not think. I could not believe.

I struggled for strength and words. I wanted to know more about what happened but somehow, a part of me was also hesitant to know. I was afraid of what I might hear. Sometimes, it is easier and less painful when you don’t know.

Suddenly, the cacophony outside suddenly snapped me out from the deafening silence that was contending inside of me. I was then brought back to the reality I was too afraid to face. At that time, I wished that it would have been better if I had not woken up from my sleep.

When I finally gained a little courage, I called up a friend and nervously asked for details on this awful news. My friend, who was obviously sobbing, frantically told me that our dear friend had been hit by a Jeep last night while she was on her way home from a party and that she was being operated as we spoke.

Upon hearing those dreadful words, an immense anger was raging inside of me. I was furious at the careless drunk driver. I was mad at her friends who persuaded her to go to the party even if she didn’t really want to in the first place. Most of all, I was angry at myself because I was not there for her. I felt helpless because I was miles away from her. I wanted to see her but at the same time, I was fearful to see her suffering. My heart could not even bear to think of the pain she was going through. I was told that almost all of her ribs were broken and that even if she was to survive, she would only suffer more since she was already brain dead.

Everything seemed very distant to me. It was as if I was being stabbed in the chest over and over but I still could not feel a thing. I was immobilized. It took me awhile to let the news sink in. I didn’t want to face the reality. I was scared of the things to come.

Indeed, sometimes God really plays jokes on people. Often we are being shown of what we are most afraid to see. The words that we dread to hear the most are usually spoken the loudest. That’s how I felt that time. It was like someone was playing a very silly joke on me. I wish that was the case.

The truth then finally hit me. Moments later, I was informed that my dear friend didn’t survive…I was crushed into pieces. The pain I felt was unbearable. It seemed so unfair that she had to die that way and that soon. She had a beautiful life ahead of her. I knew she would have wanted to live. She wanted to fight but God must have needed her so much that He wouldn’t let go of her. I became angry at Him. I just couldn’t understand why He had to get her so soon. I could not accept.

Two weeks had passed since my friend’s tragic death. I am still trying to figure out why it had to happen. Even now, I am finding it hard to move on. It’s just so difficult to let go of someone who means so much to you.

Letting go has never been easy. Losing someone will always be painful. But then I know that in time I have to let go, and for me to do this, I need to forgive myself. Forgiving others is easier than forgiving ourselves. Somehow, I must forgive myself for not being there for her. I must forgive myself for not letting her know how much our friendship means to me. I know that she knows this, in some ways, I believe I got my message across.

Moreover, letting go requires acceptance. To let go is to accept, and acceptance takes time. In my own pace, I am slowly striving to loosen my grip. As much as I don’t want to, I just know that I need to. Surely, my friend would have agreed with me.

Without a doubt, the agony of losing someone is unbearable. But as Leo Buscaglia put it:“There is no holding on, that we must let go, that there is nothing wrong with tears of parting or the pain of mourning. But the tears eventually must be dried.”

Slowly, I am now drying my tears…

Every hurt feeling that we encountered we must wipe our tears and inhale to relieve those bad feelings.

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His presence in his flowers delivery

Tara Christie



His presence in his flowers delivery

Losing someone is really hard especially when the two of you had so many memories. Then suddenly, his presence will felt by you in terms of another person or a thing; especially in terms of flower delivery.

I walked into the grocery store not particularly interested in buying groceries. I wasn’t hungry. The pain of losing my husband of 37 years was still too raw. And this grocery store held so many sweet memories.

Rudy often came with me and almost every time he’d pretend to go off and look for something special. I knew what he was up to. I’d always spot him walking down the aisle with the three yellow roses in his hands. Rudy knew I loved yellow roses.

With a heart filled with grief, I only wanted to buy my few items and leave, but even grocery shopping was different since Rudy had passed on. Shopping for one took time, a little more thought than it had for two.

Standing by the meat, I searched for the perfect small steak and remembered how Rudy had loved his steak. Suddenly a woman came beside me. She was blond, slim and lovely in a soft green pantsuit. I watched as she picked up a large pack of T-bones, dropped them in her basket, hesitated, and then put them back. She turned to go and once again reached for the pack of steaks.

She saw me watching her and she smiled. “My husband loves T-bones, but honestly, at these prices, I don’t know.” I swallowed the emotion down my throat and met her pale blue eyes. “My husband passed away eight days ago,” I told her. Glancing at the package in her hands, I fought to control the tremble in my voice. “Buy him the steaks. And cherish every moment you have together.” She shook her head and I saw the emotion in her eyes as she placed the package in her basket and wheeled away.

I turned and pushed my cart across the length of the store to the dairy products. There I stood, trying to decide which size milk I should buy. A quart, I finally decided and moved on to the ice cream section near the front of the store. If nothing else, I could always fix myself an ice cream cone. I placed the ice cream in my cart and looked down the aisle toward the front.

I saw first the green suit, then recognized the pretty lady coming towards me. In her arms, she carried a package. On her face was the brightest smile I had ever seen. I would swear a soft halo encircled her blonde hair as she kept walking towards me, her eyes holding mine. As she came closer, I saw what she held and tears began misting in my eyes.

“These are for you,” she said and placed three beautiful long stemmed yellow roses in my arms.”When you go through the line, they’ll know these are paid for.” She leaned over and placed a gentle kiss on my cheek, then smiled again.

I wanted to tell her what she’d done, what the roses meant, but still unable to speak, I watched as she walked away, tears clouding my vision. I looked down at the beautiful roses nestled in the green tissue wrapping and found it almost unreal. How did she know? Suddenly the answer seemed so clear. I wasn’t alone.

“Oh, Rudy, you haven’t forgotten me, have you?” I whispered, with tears in my eyes. He was still with me, and she was his angel.

Even if you lose a person don’t lose hope because of his always at your side, guiding you and protecting you.

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Typewriter Arts

Polly Stevens



Typewriter Arts

This person had cerebral palsy and yet he has contributed a unique talent to the world.

They lived at Rose Haven Nursing Home ( Roseburg, OR ) for years. Paul Smith, the man with extraordinary talent was born on September 21, 1921, with severe cerebral palsy. Not only had Paul beaten the odds of a life with spastic cerebral palsy, a disability that impeded his speech and mobility but also taught himself to become a master artist as well as a terrific chess player even after being devoid of a formal education as a child.

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“When typing, Paul used his left hand to steady his right one. Since he couldn’t press two keys at the same time, he almost always locked the shift key down and made his pictures using the symbols at the top of the number keys. In other words, his pictures were based on these characters ….. @ # $ % ^ & * ( )_ . Across seven decades, Paul created hundreds of pictures. He often gave the originals away. Sometimes, but not always, he kept or received a copy for his own records. As his mastery of the typewriter grew, he developed techniques to create shadings, colors, and textures that made his work resemble pencil or charcoal drawings.”

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This great man passed away on June 25, 2009, but left behind a collection of his amazing artwork that will be an inspiration for many.

You know that saying about “When life closes a door, God opens a window”? Well, I think God just helped this man build a whole new house.

This man is inspiring in his own way. He pursued his talent despite having a disability. He has great belief in his capability to inspire the world

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