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10 Reasons to Be Mindful with Your Partner

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Mindful Reasons

What might happen when mindfulness becomes a priority in your relationship? Mindful Reasons : Mindfulness means “paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally,” according to creator of the Stress Reduction Clinic and the Center for Mindfulness in Medicine, Health Care, and Society at the University of Massachusetts Medical School, Jon Kabat-Zinn, in his book, Wherever You Go, There You Are.

Not judging, being present, and paying attention seem like ingredients to a healthy relationship. But what does mindfulness need to look like?

Harvard psychologist Ellen Langer, Ph.D., says that noticing is the key to mindfulness.

“If you’re actively noticing things—so you’re going to go home tonight and, if you live with somebody, notice five new things about that person. It’s very—it can be very specific. And what will happen is, the person will start to come alive for you again, and that facilitates the relationship.”

Imagine if your partner could “come alive” for you again and again. If you infuse your relationship with mindfulness, that’s one of several benefits you might experience.

Here are ten possible outcomes if you add mindfulness to your relationship.

1. Increased Happiness

A 2010 Harvard study indicated that being in the present moment makes you happier than if your mind is wandering. In fact, it doesn’t matter if you are doing a mundane task or something incredibly exciting—if you’re in the moment, you will feel happier.

If you and your partner work on cultivating present-moment awareness, you can each be happier. Happy partners are key for happy relationships. Mindful Reasons.

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2. Improved Intimacy

Sociologist and relationship counselor Jennifer Gunsaullus, Ph.D., says that mindfulness can improve physical intimacy and sexual satisfaction between partners. “Many of us carry sexual insecurities, whether shame, embarrassment, or performance concerns.” One research study found that increased mindfulness skills were correlated with lower sexual insecurities, which was then related to greater sexual satisfaction.

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3. Slows Time

Time flies when you’re having fun, but sometimes life may seem to rapidly pass before your eyes. Neuroscientist David Eagleman’s research indicates that time seems to pass more quickly when you experience predictable events. If you notice the unexpected, however, time seems to pass by more slowly. Mindful Reasons.

To cherish and make the most of your time with your partner, keep an eye out for the unexpected. If you are mindful and present, each moment may offer something new and exciting.

4. Prompts Compassion

According to Stanford University’s Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education, recognizing suffering is the first step to prompting the cascade of compassion. When you focus on your partner and take in his or her cues, you can more easily recognize if he or she is suffering.

If your mind constantly wanders, or if you’re distracted by your smartphone, you won’t notice if your partner is suffering. Therefore, you won’t begin the cascade of compassion.

5. Cultivates Self-Compassion

Similar to compassion for another, self-compassion relies on mindfulness. Self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff, Ph.D., says, “The most important step in self-compassion, actually, is mindfulness of your own suffering.”

It makes sense, because you can’t tend to your own suffering if you’re not aware of it.

Research indicates that self-compassionate partners experience more positive relationship behaviors than those who lack self-compassion.

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6. Lessens Emotional Reactivity

If your arguments heat up quickly, mindfulness may help. According to research, mindfulness correlates to less emotional reactivity. By creating a space between your feelings or emotions and your response, you can choose a more skillful action. Mindful Reasons.

What does this look like in day-to-day life? Let’s say you notice that your partner forgot to take out the trash. Perhaps your normal reaction is to raise your voice without thinking first. A mindful approach, however, involves noticing your physiological response of anger or frustration, which may look like an increased heart rate and reddened face. If you can notice these feelings and emotions non-judgmentally and don’t allow them to carry you away, you’ll be able to respond skillfully.

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7. Keeps You Physically Healthy

Mindfulness is not simply a tool for psychological health. If you don’t want to be a partner who is literally sick and tired, mindfulness may help. Studies show that mindfulness may improve your immune system. Mindful Reasons.

8. Reduces Distractions

Are you thinking about bills that you need to pay, mentally coming up with your grocery list, or planning tomorrow’s workday? Your wandering mind may be pulling you away from your partner. Imagine what your conversations will be like when you both acutely focus on each other without letting your minds carry you away.

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9. Keeps Things Exciting

A daily routine with your partner can get monotonous and, frankly, boring. By taking Langer’s advice and noticing five new things about your partner each day, you are constantly in discovery mode. Mindful Reasons.

What can you notice? You can pay attention to details in your partner’s appearance. Is there a freckle you hadn’t noticed before? What colors can you see in his or her eyes? What about paying attention to the way he or she laughs? Have you noticed how your partner introduces himself or herself to others?

Find out what happens when you tune into what makes your partner unique.

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10. Enhances Communication

Being present with your partner allows you to truly listen. Psychologist and mediator Marshall Rosenberg, author of Nonviolent Communication, defines mindful listening as “receiving empathically.” When you fully listen without interrupting, without trying to fix the problem, and without judgment, your partner will feel heard. Mindful Reasons.

Experiment with mindfulness this month, and see what happens. See if your partner “comes alive” when you begin to notice new things about him or her!

Mindful PartnerSara Schairer

Sara is the founder and executive director of COMPASSION IT, a start-up nonprofit organization and global social movement whose mission is to inspire daily compassionate actions and attitudes. She created the one-of-a-kind reversible COMPASSION IT wristband prompting compassionate actions on six continents, 48 countries, and all 50 states. Wristband sales fund compassion education programs for youth, teens, and adults.

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A hardworking father

Tara Christie



A hardworking father

If your dad is or was a hardworking man and, has helped you as much as he could at the time, no matter how good or bad you were, and is just a best dad ever. As a bread winner of the family, he is the one who exert more effort.

Father was a hardworking man who delivered bread as a living to support his wife and three children. He spent all his evenings after work attending classes, hoping to improve himself so that he could one day find a better paying job. Except for Sundays, Father hardly ate a meal together with his family. He worked and studied very hard because he wanted to provide his family with the best money could buy.

A hardworking father

Whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

The day came when the examination results were announced. To his joy, Father passed, and with distinctions too! Soon after, he was offered a good job as a senior supervisor which paid handsomely.

Like a dream come true, Father could now afford to provide his family with life’s little luxuries like nice clothing, fine food and vacation abroad.

However, the family still did not get to see father for most of the week. He continued to work very hard, hoping to be promoted to the position of manager. In fact, to make himself a worthily candidate for the promotion, he enrolled for another course in the open university.

A hardworking father

Again, whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

Father’s hard work paid off and he was promoted. Jubilantly, he decided to hire a maid to relieve his wife from her domestic tasks. He also felt that their three-room flat was no longer big enough, it would be nice for his family to be able to enjoy the facilities and comfort of a condominium. Having experienced the rewards of his hard work many times before, Father resolved to further his studies and work at being promoted again. The family still did not get to see much of him. In fact, sometimes Father had to work on Sundays entertaining clients. Again, whenever the family complained that he was not spending enough time with them, he reasoned that he was doing all this for them. But he often yearned to spend more time with his family.

As expected, Father’s hard work paid off again and he bought a beautiful condominium overlooking the coast of Singapore. On the first Sunday evening at their new home, Father declared to his family that he decided not to take anymore courses or pursue any more promotions. From then on he was going to devote more time to his family.

Father did not wake up the next day.

It’s very inspiring and touching story. A father do his best for her family for them to have a stable and better life. Respect and valued all the efforts of your parents, this is the way to show their love.

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Heart-felt gift for friends

Tara Christie



Heart felt gift for friends

In a friendship, it is not important whether your gift is an object or affection. But, the most important is your presence to each other that is what  a heart-felt gift for your friend.

True friends are not fussy or judgemental. They care not what you are worth or what you own. And they certainly understand the meaning of your friendship, and whatever you may give as a present comes from the heart. Here are some of the most heartfelt gifts you can offer good friends, without a bit of monetary investment.

But you must REALLY listen. No interrupting, no daydreaming, no planning your response. Just listening.

Be generous with appropriate hugs, kisses, pats on the back and handholds. Let these small actions demonstrate the love you have for family and friends.

Clip cartoons. Share articles and funny stories. Your gift will say, “I love to laugh with you.”

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It can be a simple “Thanks for the help” note or a full sonnet. A brief, handwritten note could be remembered for a lifetime, and may even change a life (although it may cost a stamp if you mail it)


A simple and sincere, “You look great in red,” “You did a super job” or “That was a wonderful meal” can make someone’s day.

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Every day, go out of your way to do something kind.

There are times when we want nothing better than to be left alone. Be sensitive to those times and give the gift of solitude to others.

The easiest way to feel good is to extend a kind word to someone. Really, it’s not that hard to say “Hello” or “Thank You.”

Every gift for your friend is important, learn to value even if it’s not a concrete gift. The most special gift for your friendship is your quality time together.

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Do You Know You Are Loved?

Polly Stevens



Do You Know You Are Loved

Do You Know You Are Loved?

It has been my good fortune to know Dr. Everett Blanton and to be counted among his friends. Come to think of it, that doesn’t make me all that special. His circle of friends is pretty large. And I don’t know anyone in his still-larger circle of acquaintances that didn’t like him and respect him.

This is how his booming voice greeted those of us fortunate enough to be his friends: “Has anyone told you today that he loves you?”

The first time he posed the question to you, you may have tried to answer it. You would try to remember if your wife or children said “I love you” before they left for school or when you left for work. Or perhaps you would simply be stunned by such a question – and stand a bit wide-eyed and not know how to respond.

His handsome face would break into a broad grin, and he would say something on this order: “Well, I do! And I just wanted you to know how much I appreciate you. You are special to me, and I am grateful to have you in my life.”

Do You Know You Are Loved

Now that might sound mushy – if not downright suspicious – if Everett’s hair had not been completely white and his face marked with the signs of age. Coming from him, both males and females heard the genuine affirmation of a godly man who wanted to tell the people in his life how he valued them.

When a move to another state put distance between us, we would occasionally speak by phone. It was always important for me to begin the conversation. As soon as he picked up, I would say, “Everett, has anybody told you today how loved you are?” He would laugh, call my name, and tell me how special I was to him. There was no way to get ahead of him!

Everett Blanton passed away. Loved and supported by children and grandchildren, he had battled cancer courageously – and tried to keep his family from worrying too much about it. The battle had become hard.

His closest ally, best friend, and devoted wife through all his life adventures, Peggy, mourns his loss – but smiles at the treasure trove of sweet memories they made together. She tells me how fortunate she was to have had all those years with him. He would tell you he was the lucky one.

You don’t have to know Everett to learn from him. Learn to affirm the people who are important in your life. Tell them you love them. Then tell them again and once more for good measure. Be remembered for it when it comes your time to go home. As Joe Bain said, Everett was “a man with the kindest heart I’ve ever known.” Wouldn’t that be a wonderful way for people to remember you?

Rubel Shelly

Rubel Shelly is a Preacher and Professor of Religion and Philosophy located in Rochester Hills, Michigan. In addition to church and academic responsibilities, he has worked actively with such community projects as Habitat for Humanity, American Red Cross, From Nashville With Love, Metro (Nashville) Public Schools, Faith Family Medical Clinic, and Operation Andrew Ministries.

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Darth Vader Quotes – Be Seduced by the Dark Side




Darth Vader Quotes

Undoubtedly Darth Vader is one of the most well known movie character of all time.  The villain that was a good guy of the Star Wars franchise, is considered one of the most powerful and prominent movie villains of all time, but has it always been like that? The answer is no…

As it turned out he was once a heroic Jedi Knight.  Learning his craft under Obi-Wan Kenobi many considered he was the “chosen one” the one born to bring balance to the universe. However that did not turn out to be the case as Anikan  was seduced by the Dark Side of the Force, to became a Sith Lord, and led the Empire’s elimination of the Jedi Order. For decades, He remained in service of an evil Emperor – Darth Sidious – enforcing his Master’s will and seeking to destroy the fledgling Rebel Alliance. But was there still good in him?


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“Luke, I am your father.”


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“I am altering the deal. Pray I don’t alter it any further.”


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“If this is a consular ship, where is the ambassador?”


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“I sense something. A presence I have not felt since….”


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“That name no longer has any meaning for me.”


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“This will be a day long remembered.”


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“All too easy.”


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“Anakin Skywalker was weak. I destroyed him.”


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“Apology accepted, Captain”

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“Be careful not to choke on your aspirations.”


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“Don’t fail me again, Admiral.”


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“From my point of view, the Jedi are evil.”


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“He will join us or die, my master.”


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“He will not be permanently damaged.”


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“He’s all yours, bounty hunter. Reset the chamber for Skywalker.”

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“He’s just a boy.”


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“I do not want the Emperor’s prize damaged.”


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“I find your lack of faith disturbing.”


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“I have brought peace, freedom, justice, and security to my new empire.”


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“I have felt it.”

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“If he could be turned, he would become a powerful ally.”


“Impressive. Most impressive. Obi-Wan has taught you well.”


“It is your destiny. Join me, and together we can rule the galaxy as father and son.”


“Obi-Wan never told you what happened to your father.”


“Perhaps I can find new ways to motivate them.”


“Take the princess and the Wookie to my ship.”


“The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force.”


“The Emperor will show you the true nature of the Force. He is your Master now.”


“Give yourself to the Dark Side. It is the only way you can save your friends.”

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“The Force is with you, young Skywalker, but you are not a Jedi yet.”

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“There is no escape. Don’t make me destroy you.”


“Luke, you do not yet realize your importance.”


“The circle is now complete.”


“When I left you, I was but the learner. Now I am the master.”


“We would be honored, if you would join us.”


 “With our combined strength, we can end this destructive conflict and bring order to the galaxy.”


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“Yes, your thoughts betray you.”

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“You are beaten. It is useless to resist.”


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“You don’t know the power of the dark side.”


“You have controlled your fear. Now, release your anger. Only your hatred can destroy me.”


“You have failed me for the last time, Admiral….”


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“You have learned much, young one.”


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“You underestimate the power of the Dark Side. If you will not fight, then you will meet your destiny.”


“You’re asking me to be rational. That is something I know I cannot do.”


“Your destiny lies with me Skywalker. Obi-Wan knew this to be true.”


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More quotes from Darth Vader


“Now his failure is complete.”

“I see through the lies of the Jedi.”


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“I do not fear the dark side as you do.”


“Just for once let me look on you with my own eyes… You were right. You were right about me. Tell your sister you were right.”


“Don’t be too proud of this technological terror you’ve constructed. The ability to destroy a planet is insignificant next to the power of the Force… ”


“I see through the lies of the Jedi. I do not fear the dark side as you do. I have brought peace, freedom, justice, and security to my new empire.”


“Luke, you can destroy the Emperor. He has foreseen this. It is your destiny. Join me, and together we can rule the galaxy as father and son.”


“She must have hidden the plans in the escape pod. Send a detachment down to retrieve them. See to it personally, Commander. There’ll be no one to stop us this time.”


“This will be a day long remembered. It has seen the end of Kenobi; it will soon see the end of the Rebellion.”


“I do not want the Emperor’s prize damaged. We will test it…on Captain Solo.”


“There is no escape. Don’t make me destroy you. Luke, you do not yet realize your importance. You have only begun to discover your power. Join me and I will complete your training. With our combined strength, we can end this destructive conflict and bring order to the galaxy.”


“If you only knew the power of the dark side. Obi-Wan never told you what happened to your father.”


“Sister! So, you have a twin sister! Obi-Wan was wise to hide her from me. Now his failure is complete. If you will not turn to the dark side, then perhaps she will!”


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“You saw what we did there right?”


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“When I left you I was but the learner. Now I am the master.”


“The Force is strong with this one. ”


“Give yourself to the Dark Side. It is the only way you can save your friends. Yes, your thoughts betray you. Your feelings for them are strong. Especially for… sister. So, you have a twin sister.”


“Your feelings have now betrayed her, too. Obi-Wan was wise to hide her from me. Now his failure is complete.”


“I see through the lies of the Jedi. I do not fear the dark side as you do.”


“Power! Unlimited power!”


“You are a part of the Rebel Alliance and a traitor!”


“What have I done?”


“Asteroids do not concern me, Admiral.”


“Give into your hate and anger”


“I sense something.”


“I have you now. ”


“What is thy bidding, my Master? ”

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“This technological terror is nothing compared to the power of the force”


“All I am surrounded by is fear, and dead men!”


“Search your feelings, you know it to be true!”


“You are unwise to lower your defenses!”


“Give yourself to the Dark Side. It is the only way you can save your friends. Yes, your thoughts betray you. Your feelings for them are strong.”


“I hope so for your sake, the Emperor is not as forgiving as I am.”


“I sense something. A presence I have not felt since….”


“There is no escape. Don’t make me destroy you. Luke, you do not yet realize your importance. You have only begun to discover your power. Join me and I will complete your training. With our combined strength, we can end this destructive conflict and bring order to the galaxy.”



Which of these Darth Vader quotes is your favorite?

Darth Vader’s tragic story as the valiant Jedi Knight turned evil is proof that even the good people of this world can make bad decisions when caught in a compromising circumstance in the name of love.


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What is A Family?

Sheila J. Highland



What is a Family

What Is A Family?

A man came home from work late, tired and irritated, to find his 5-year old son waiting for him at the door.

SON: “Daddy, may I ask you a question?”

DAD: “Yeah sure, what is it?” replied the man.

SON: “Daddy, how much do you make an hour?”What is a Family

DAD: “That’s none of your business. Why do you ask such a thing?” the man said angrily.

SON: “I just want to know. Please tell me, how much do you make an hour?”

DAD: “If you must know, I make $20 an hour.”

“Oh,” the little boy replied, with his head down. Looking up, he said,

“Daddy, may I please borrow $10?”

The father was furious, “If the only reason you asked that is so you can borrow some money to buy a silly toy or some other nonsense, then you march yourself straight to your room and go to bed. Think about why you are being so selfish. I work hard everyday for such this childish behavior.” The little boy quietly went to his room and shut the door. The man sat down and started to get even angrier about the little boy’s questions. How dare he ask such questions only to get some money? After about an hour or so, the man had calmed down, and started to think: Maybe there was something he really needed to buy with that $10 and he really didn’t ask for money very often. The man went to the door of the little boy’s room and opened the door. “Are you asleep, son?” He asked. “No daddy, I’m awake,” replied the boy.“I’ve been thinking, maybe I was too hard on you earlier,” said the man. “It’s been a long day and I took out my aggravation on you. Here’s the $10 you asked for.” The little boy sat straight up, smiling. “Oh, thank you, daddy!” He yelled. Then, reaching under his pillow he pulled out some crumpled up bills. The man, seeing that the boy already had money, started to get angry again. The little boy slowly counted out his money, and then looked up at his father. “Why do you want more money if you already have some?” the father grumbled. “Because I didn’t have enough, but now I do,” the little boy replied. “Daddy, I have $20 now. Can I buy an hour of your time? Please come home early tomorrow. I would like to have dinner with you.” Share this story with someone you like…. But even better, share $20 worth of time with someone you love. It’s just a short reminder to all of you working so hard in life. We should not let time slip through our fingers without having spent some time with those who really matter to us, those close to our hearts. If we die tomorrow, the company that we are working for could easily replace us in a matter of days. But the family & friends we leave behind will feel the loss for the rest of their lives. And come to think of it, we pour ourselves more into work than to our family. An unwise investment indeed!

Moral: In our busy lives in this world, we should not neglect our family. Let us spend more quality time with our loved ones especially our family.


What is a Family? is a motivating story of more quality time with family. Another moving story is True Wealth.

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Salt Coffee Story – A Wonderful Love Story

Polly Stevens



Salt Coffee Story

The Salt Coffee Story

He met her at a party. She was so outstanding, many guys chasing after her, while he was average looking, shy and awkward.

At the end of the party, he finally summoned some courage to invite the girl to have coffee with him. She was surprised, but out of politeness, she accepted his invitation to go on a date. They both sat in a nice coffee shop, he was too nervous to say anything, she felt uncomfortable, waiting for coffee. With him being so shy and awkward around her, It seemed like the conversation between them would never start.salt coffee story

The coffee was brought and suddenly, he asked the waiter. “Would you please get me some salt? I’d like to put it in my coffee!” Everyone at the cafe stared at him with a strange look! His face turned red, but still, he put the salt in his coffee and drank it. She asked him curiously, “Why this unusual habit?” He took a couple of sips and replied, “When I was a little boy, I lived near the sea, I liked playing in the sea, I could feel the taste of the sea, just like the taste of the salty coffee. Now every time I have the salty coffee, I always think of my childhood, think of my hometown, I miss my hometown so much, I miss my parents who are still living there.” While saying that tears filled his eyes.

She was deeply touched. That’s his true feeling, from the bottom of his heart. A man who can tell out his homesickness, he must be a man who loves home, cares about home, has realized his responsibility for his family … She then started talking about her childhood, her faraway hometown, and her family.

That was a really nice talk, also a beautiful beginning of their love story. They continued to date. She found that actually, he was a man who meets all her demands; he had tolerance, was kind hearted, warm, careful. He was such a good man and had it not been for the salt in the coffee, she’d never have really known him!

The rest of the story was just like any other beautiful love story: they finally got married, and they lived a very happy married life. And sure! every time she made coffee for him, she put some salt in the coffee, just the way he liked it! After 40 years of marital bliss, he died after a short illness.

One day, she found a letter he had left for her which said,

“My dearest, please forgive me, forgive my whole life’s lie. This was the only lie I said to you—the salty coffee.

Remember the first time we dated? I was so nervous at that time, actually, I wanted some sugar, but I said salt. It was hard for me to change so I just went ahead. I never thought that could be the start of our communication! I tried to tell you the truth many times in my life, but I was too afraid to do that, as I have promised not to lie to you for anything…

Now I’m dying, so I tell you the truth, I don’t like the salty coffee, what a strange bad taste… But I have had the salty coffee for my whole life! Since I knew you, I never feel sorry for anything I do for you. Having you with me is my biggest happiness for my whole life. If I can live for the second time, still want to know you and have you for my whole life, even though I have to drink the salty coffee again.

Please forgive me, darling.. for lying to you first in that Coffee Shop and then not telling you the truth every time you made coffee for me! I am not lying now when I say, I couldn’t have that coffee any other way! – still madly in love with you”

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Tears fell down her cheek as she finished reading the letter.

If anybody asks her: “How did that salted coffee taste?” “It’s sweet.” She always replied.

I hope that you enjoyed the Salt Coffee story, if you did please share it on your favourite social media channel.

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