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When adversity knocks on your door, who would you be?

Tara Christie



When adversity knocks on your door who would you be

Challenges and problems are challenging. Some people might weaken their life because of these. How about you? — When adversity knocks on your door, who would be you? the strogest one or the weakest one?

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see. “Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, “What does it mean, mother?”  Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity — boiling water. Each reacted differently.

When adversity knocks on your door

The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

“Which are you?” she asked her daughter. “When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?”

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat?  Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial
hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water,  the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it  releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things  are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you.

When adversity knocks on your door

When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.

The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can’t go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.

This will reminds you to become a stronger person than you think. And learn to think many times your decision before you do.

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Building Good Habits, Warren Buffett Style




Building Good Habits, Warren Buffett Style

“Buffett thought for a few seconds and then reached for the stack of reports, trade publications and other papers he had brought with him. “Read 500 pages like this everyday” said Buffett, or words to that effect.  “That’s how knowledge works.  It builds up, like compound interest.  All of you can do it, but I guarantee not many of you will do  it.”


Building Good Habits

And you know what, he is right.  Not many of you will do it.

That’s the haunting part. Not many will do it.  The sea of amateurs comes from this failure to faithfully commit to the unglamorous daily effort, but the top performers in any field usually have this in common.  They understand the “compound interest effect.”  Small, steady consistent accrual over time builds a massive bank.

If you aren’t contributing daily – measurably – to some bank of talent or education, you are short changing yourself of a richer life.  Here’s a simple way to change that:

  1. Pick something you’d like to do.  It may be reading, cycling, weight training, meditation or learning a new skill.
  2. Pick a metric that you can measure.  This might be pages read, weight lifted, distance run, minutes meditating =, or any other concrete number.
  3. Create a spreadsheet or journal where you can faithfully and consistently record your effort.
  4. Pick a starting point which is “too easy not to do.”  Even if it’s one page, one pound, or one minute, make it absolutely achievable, regardless of your willpower.
  5. Schedule a time, preferably first thing in the morning, to pursue your chosen activity.  Scheduling is important.  Put it on your calendar, because things on your calendar tend to get done.
  6. Show up, do the work, record your effort.
  7. Repeat daily, gradually increasing the amount of work you put in to a sustainable, productive level.

Don’t place expectations on where this effort will lead, or if it is worth your time.  Simply respect the practice and watch your efforts build over time.  As your knowledge, strength, endurance, or attention grows, you’ll be surprised how important it becomes.

Then without realising you will have developed a new habit.

Some of Warren Buffett’s famous Quotes

The first rule is not to lose. The second rule is not to forget the first rule.

It’s better to hang out with people better than you, … Pick out associates whose behavior is better than yours and you’ll drift in that direction.

Value is what you get.

We enjoy the process far more than the proceeds.

Risk is a part of God’s game, alike for men and nations.

Of the billionaires I have known, money just brings out the basic traits in them. If they were jerks before they had money, they are simply jerks with a billion dollars.

If past history was all there was to the game, the richest people would be librarians

Chains of habit are too light to be felt until they are too heavy to be broken.It takes 20 years to build a reputation and five minutes to ruin it. If you think about that, you’ll do things differently.

In the business world, the rearview mirror is always clearer than the windshield.

There seems to be some perverse human characteristic that likes to make easy things difficult.

We simply attempt to be fearful when others are greedy and to be greedy only when others are fearful.

Why not invest your assets in the companies you really like? As Mae West said, Too much of a good thing can be wonderful.


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101 Inspirational Yoda Quotes from the Jedi Master




101 Yoda Quotes

Yoda Quotes

Yoda, a Force-sensitive male being belonging to a mysterious species, was a legendary Jedi Master who witnessed the rise and fall of the Galactic Republic, followed by the rise of the Galactic Empire. Small in stature but revered for his wisdom and power, Yoda trained generations of Jedi, ultimately serving as the Grand Master of the Jedi Order.

Yoda is small in stature but revered for his wisdom and power, Yoda trained generations of Jedi, ultimately serving as the Grand Master of the Jedi Order. Having lived through nine centuries of galactic history, Yoda played integral roles in the Clone Wars, the rebirth of the Jedi through Luke Skywalker, and unlocking the path to immortality.

Born 900 years before the Battle of Endor, Yoda belonged to an ancient and mysterious species. As he was keenly attuned to the Force, he joined the Jedi Order as a youngling.

Yoda was the leading expert at the use of the force. The Force is what gives a Jedi his power. It’s an energy field created by all living things. It surrounds us and penetrates us; it binds the galaxy together. See More Yoda Quotes.

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The shroud of the dark side has fallen. Begun, the Clone War has.”

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The shadow of greed, attachment is. What you fear to lose, train yourself to release. Let go of fear, and loss cannot harm you.

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The more we learn, the more we discover how much we do not know.

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The dark side. Always it speaks to us, from our pain. Our grief. It connects our pain to all pain, our hurt to all hurt.

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So great life is, to finish it no way there is. The more you would enter into it, the vaster would be the possibilities that open their doors.

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Silence is not simply calmness or quietude. Over all words and thoughts it implies transcendence. A state of beyond, a state of pervasive peace, it denotes.

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Poetic you become when in love you are. In love continuously are those people who are called poets.

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Out of acceptance comes wisdom. Not an acquirement wisdom is, not knowledge wisdom is, not information. This quality of tremendous acceptance is wisdom.



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Of your ability, sure you are. Yet between sureness and pride, a small step it is.

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Of the moment, be. In the moment, live. The art of remaining in the present, learn. Neither the past nor the future exists.

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No greater gift there is, than a generous heart.

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Never step in the same river twice can you. Each time the river hurries on. Each time he that steps has changed


Listening to music sometimes, a window opens and happy you are.

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Like reflections in the mirror thoughts are, clouds passing in the sky, but not the clouds the sky is. Desires, memories, imagination, they all come and go.

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Just disconnect. Once in a day sometime, sit silently and from all connections disconnect yourself

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If routine you count on, disappointed your hopes will be.

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Each choice, the branch of a tree is? what looked like a decision, is after only a pattern of growth.

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Concentrate on what I know is true while I wait for the mud to settle and the water to become clear.

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Close your mouth and open your ears, you must. Then hear what your true heart is seeking, you will.

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Better things than fighting, should a Jedi Master be doing! Seeking wisdom. Finding balance.

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Arduous is discovering oneself, going on the greatest exploration it is.

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Anger, fear, aggression; the dark side of the Force are they. Easily they flow, quick to join you in a fight.

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Always more questions than answers, there are.

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Age more than a count of heartbeats is. Age is how many mistakes you have made.


A decision is yours alone to make. Yet remember you should that you make it also for the silent ones who stand at your shoulder.

A decision is yours alone to make. Yet remember you should that you make it also for the silent ones who stand at your shoulder.

“You must confront Vader. Then, only then, a Jedi will you be. And confront him you will.”


“Truly wonderful, the mind of a child is.”



“The history of items, does the Force permit Vos to understand. The history of a soul, does the Force permit me to understand.”

“The history of items, does the Force permit Vos to understand. The history of a soul, does the Force permit me to understand.”

“Secret, shall I tell you? Grand Master of Jedi Order am I. Won this job in a raffle I did, think you? ‘How did you know, how did you know, Master Yoda? Master Yoda knows these things. His job it is.”

“Secret, shall I tell you? Grand Master of Jedi Order am I. Won this job in a raffle I did, think you? ‘How did you know, how did you know, Master Yoda? Master Yoda knows these things. His job it is.”

“Reckless he is. Matters are worse.”


“Luminous beings are we… not this crude matter.”


“If you end your training now, if you choose the quick and easy path as Vader did, you will become an agent of evil.”


“I have waited a long time for this moment, my little green friend… at last, the Jedi are no more.”


“Hmm. To a dark place this line of thought will carry us. Great care we must take.”


“Already know you that which you need.”


“A challenge lifelong it is, not to bend fear into anger.”


The greatest teacher, failure is.


Once you start down the dark path, forever will it dominate your destiny. Consume you, it will.


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In the end, cowards are those who follow the dark side.


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Clear your mind must be if you are to discover the real villains behind this plot.



“You think Yoda stops teaching, just because his student does not want to hear? A teacher Yoda is. Yoda teaches like drunkards drink, like killers kill.”


“You fail because you don’t believe.”


“Truly wonderful, the mind of a child is.”


“Through the Force, things you will see. Other places. The future… the past. Old friends long gone.”



“Smaller in number are we, but larger in mind.”

“Smaller in number are we, but larger in mind.”

“Size matters not. Look at me. Judge me by my size, do you? Hmm? Hmm. And well you should not. For my ally is the Force, and a powerful ally it is. Life creates it, makes it grow. Its energy surrounds us and binds us. Luminous beings are we, not this crude matter. You must feel the Force around you; here, between you, me, the tree, the rock, everywhere, yes. Even between the land and the ship.”


“If you end your training now– if you choose the quick and easy path as Vader did-— you will become an agent of evil.”


“Ready are you? What know you of ready? For eight hundred years have I trained Jedi. My own counsel will I keep on who is to be trained.”


“Mind what you have learned. Save you it can.”


“In this war, a danger there is of losing who we are.”


“In a dark place we find ourselves, and a little more knowledge lights our way.”


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“If no mistake you have made, losing you are. A different game you should play.”


“Decide you must, how to serve them best. If you leave now, help them you could; but you would destroy all for which they have fought, and suffered.”


“Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for those around you who transform into the Force. Mourn them do not. Miss them do not. Attachment leads to jealousy. The shadow of greed, that is.”


“Adventure. Excitement. A Jedi craves not these things.”


“A Jedi uses the Force for knowledge and defense, never for attack.”


“A Jedi must have the deepest commitment, the most serious mind. This one a long time have I watched. All his life has he looked away to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm_”

“A Jedi must have the deepest commitment, the most serious mind. This one a long time have I watched. All his life has he looked away to the future, to the horizon. Never his mind on where he was. Hmm_”

“You will know (the good from the bad) when you are calm, at peace. Passive. A Jedi uses the Force for knowledge and defense, never for attack.”


“You think Yoda stops teaching, just because his student does not want to hear? A teacher Yoda is. Yoda teaches like drunkards drink, like killers kill.”

“You think Yoda stops teaching, just because his student does not want to hear? A teacher Yoda is. Yoda teaches like drunkards drink, like killers kill.”

“To be Jedi is to face the truth, and choose. Give off light, or darkness, Padawan. Be a candle, or the night.”


“Soon will I rest, yes, forever sleep. Earned it I have. Twilight is upon me, soon night must fall.”


“Smaller in number are we, but larger in mind.”


Already know you that which you need

Already know you that which you need

Blind we are, if creation of this clone army we could not see


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Control, control, you must learn control!


I cannot teach him. The boy has no patience


At an end your rule is, and not short enough it was!

At an end your rule is, and not short enough it was!

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On many long journeys have I gone. And waited, too, for others to return from journeys of their own. Some return; some are broken; some come back so different only their names remain


To answer power with power, the Jedi way this is not. In this war, a danger there is, of losing who we are

To answer power with power, the Jedi way this is not. In this war, a danger there is, of losing who we are

Not if anything to say about it I have


I was not strong enough to defeat him. Like his master before him, be destroyed, he must


Around the survivors a perimeter create


Always two there are, no more, no less. A master and an apprentice


Named must your fear be, before banish it you can


You will find only what you bring in


The dark side clouds everything. Impossible to see the future is.


If into the security recordings you go, only pain will you find


May the Force be with you


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Difficult to see. Always in motion is the future


Truly wonderful the mind of a child is

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Many of the truths that we cling to depend on our point of view

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Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering

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When you look at the dark side, careful you must be. For the dark side looks back

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You must unlearn what you have learned

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Powerful you have become, the dark side I sense in you

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If you end your training now — if you choose the quick and easy path as Vader did — you will become an agent of evil

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Always pass on what you have learned

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Train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose

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“Do or do not. There is no try.”

do or do not there is no try

Is this the most famous Yoda Quote of all time, it certainly is my favourite.

“Always with you what cannot be done. Hear you nothing that I say?…You must unlearn what you have learned….Try not. Do. Or do not. There is no try.”

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“Your path you must decide.”

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“Anger, fear, aggression. The dark side are they. Once you start down the dark path forever will it dominate your destiny.”

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“There’s no doubt the mysterious warrior was a Sith.
Always two, there are. No more, no less. A master and an apprentice.

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“Strong is Vader. Mind what you have learned. Save you it can.”

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“Like fire across the galaxy the Clone Wars spread. In league with the wicked Count Dooku, more and more planets slip. Against this threat, upon the Jedi Knights falls the duty to lead the newly formed army of the Republic. And as the heat of war grows, so, to, grows the prowess of one most gifted student of the Force.”

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“Faith in your new apprentice, misplaced may be. As is your faith in the dark side of the Force. “

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“Only the Dark Lord of the Sith knows of our weakness. If informed the senate is, multiply our adversaries will.”

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“The boy you trained, gone he is. Consumed by Darth Vader.”

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“Pain, suffering, death I feel. Something terrible has happened. Young Skywalker is in pain. Terrible pain”

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“Use your feelings, Obi-Wan, and find him you will.”

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“Urm. Put a shield on my saber I must”

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“Much to learn you still have…my old padawan.” … “This is just the beginning!”

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100 Positive Thinking Exercises

Polly Stevens



Think positive, positive thinking, motivation

Sometimes even the best medicine and healthcare is not enough for a full recovery. For patients struggling with illness or dealing with a major life change, these positive thinking exercises can mean all the difference. Here are 100 that we’ve compiled to help you channel your negative or angry thoughts into a happier and more productive positive outlook.

Practice these simple exercises and suggestions to keep your thoughts on the positive side.

  1. Only use positive words when talking. If you’re constantly telling yourself “I can’t” you may convince yourself that’s the truth. Replace these negative words with positive ones instead. Tell yourself you will do your best or that you will try your hardest instead.
  2. Push out all feelings that aren’t positive. Don’t let negative thoughts and feelings overwhelm you when you’re feeling down. Even if it’s only for a few hours a day, push your negativity aside and only focus on the good things in your life.
  3. Use words that evoke strength and success. Try filling your thoughts with words that make you feel strong, happy and in control of your life. Make a concentrated effort to focus on these words rather than those that make you feel like you are failing or incompetent.
  4. Practice positive affirmation. One of the most popular positive thinking exercises is a positive affirmation. This means you repeat a positive phrase to yourself on a regular basis like “I deserve to be happy” or “I am worthy of love”. Believing that these things are true, and reminding yourself of it can help give you a more positive outlook on life.
  5. Direct your thoughts. This technique, used by psychotherapists, can help you to control your thoughts when you start to feel down or anxious. Create a happy thought, a positive image, or give yourself positive feedback to keep bad feelings in check.
  6. Believe you will succeed. There is nothing like believing in yourself to create a successful reality. Give yourself the benefit of the doubt and believe that you will succeed at fulfilling your goals.
  7. Analyze what went wrong. Thinking positively doesn’t mean denying that there is anything wrong. Instead, give yourself some time to think about the things that led up to your current situation so you can avoid future mistakes and look toward a more positive tomorrow.
  8. Give yourself credit. Often when we feel frustrated or upset we only concentrate on the bad things or the mistakes we’ve made instead of giving ourselves credit for what we do right. Allow yourself to feel confident about the things you have accomplished, even if you’ve messed up in other areas.
  9. Forgive yourself. Constantly beating yourself up about things that have gone wrong won’t change them. Tell yourself that you’re forgiven for your mistakes and allow yourself to move on.
  10. Learn from the past. The past is behind you and no matter how badly things went there is nothing you can do to change them. Whenever you feel negative thoughts about the past come up, replace them with positive thoughts about the future.
  11. Remember things could be worse. No matter how bad things get to remember that they could be worse and be grateful for all the good things that are in your life, even when it seems there’s more bad than good.
  12. Think of it as an opportunity. Sometimes even the seemingly negative things in our lives present us with opportunities we wouldn’t have been strong enough to pursue otherwise. Maybe losing your job is just the chance you need to start your own business or go back to school.
  13. Come up with ideas of how to turn negative thoughts into positive ones. If you find yourself thinking you should have done this or that differently, try changing your thoughts around. Instead, give yourself credit for what you did do, remember that you are not perfect or that you can do better next time.
  14. Work on visualization. Picturing what you want to accomplish or the person you’d like to be can be a great motivator to getting you there and helping you feel more positive about the distance you have to go yet.
  15. Think of ways to turn visualization into action. The next natural step of this is to think of just how you’re going to get to where you see yourself. Just picturing it isn’t going to make it happen, so create a plan to take it one step at a time until you’ve made it.
  16. Practice self-hypnosis. Self-hypnosis brings about a highly conscious state of mind that is willing to follow instructions. This means you’ll be more open to positive suggestions that will allow you to be happier and hopefully healthier in your life.
  17. List the reasons you will get what you want. If you are having trouble believing that you’ll get that big promotion or that your book will get published try sitting down and coming up with a list of reasons that you will get what you want rather than focusing on the reasons you might not.

At Work

Work can be a stressful place but use these techniques and ideas to keep yourself looking on the bright side.

  1. Be constructive. Giving yourself cruel and unwarranted criticisms will not only put you in a bad mood it surely won’t help you improve either. Be constructive in your criticisms of yourself so you can grow and learn.
  2. Visualize a successful outcome. Sometimes it can be helpful to picture yourself completing a project successfully or getting the promotion you desire. This can encourage you and make you feel better about the situation.
  3. Sit up straight. Slouching down in your chair isn’t going to make you feel any better about anything that’s bothering you. Sit up straight in your chair and see if it improves your thinking.
  4. Surround yourself with positive images. Make your desk your own private happy getaway. Put up pictures of things that make you happy or that remind you of your goals to create a calming and positive environment.
  5. Relax and let things happen. Sometimes the best way to deal with problems is to relax and let them take their course. Things can often appear to be a bigger deal than they really are and reminding yourself of this can help you to relax and not feel so stressed.
  6. See it from another point of view. Change your pattern of thought by trying to see things from another point of view, whether it’s your coworkers, your bosses or just someone impartial. It can help you see where you went wrong and understand why others might be upset.
  7. Keep track of your thoughts. When you catch yourself thinking negative thoughts, try jotting them down. You may find a pattern and figure out some ways to reverse how you’re seeing yourself or negative situations.
  8. Don’t dwell. So you made a mistake. It happens to everyone. Don’t dwell on your mistakes. Make peace with yourself and move on to other projects.
  9. Stop being your own worst critic. There’s no one else who knows just how to make you feel terrible like you can. Lay off on the harsh criticism and think good things about yourself when you feel you’re at your worst.
  10. Look at yourself rationally. It’s easy to get down on yourself for messing up at work, even on the little things. But try taking a step back and looking at the situation. You may find that what you thought was a big deal really doesn’t matter that much.
  11. Believe in yourself. Want that promotion? Hoping to get that huge account? Believe that you can do it and it just might come true.
  12. Avoid negative coworkers. Nothing can ruin a positive attitude like coworkers who bring out the negatives in everything. Avoid talking to those you know will only make you feel worse.
  13. Truly believe you are the best at your job. If you’re constantly looking for failures in your work and put on a sour attitude you’re much more likely to actually be putting in a poor performance. If you think that you’re good at your job you’re much more likely to put in the effort and performance that will make you good.
  14. Look for opportunity. In every failure, there’s an opportunity to improve. Spend time thinking of ways you can turn your setbacks at work into ways you can get ahead in the future.

Family and Personal Life

Whether you’re struggling with keeping a positive attitude about yourself or about issues within your family, try these positive thinking techniques.

  1. Associate yourself with those who think positively. Positivity is contagious, so find friends and family members who look on the bright side to surround yourself with.
  2. Be glad your life isn’t boring. If nothing good or bad ever happened to you, likely you’d start to get pretty bored with your life. Take everything that is coming to you as a challenge and a way to keep yourself busy and interested in your life.
  3. Look at the big picture. Is that parking ticket you got a bummer? Of course. Will you still feel bad about it later this week? This month? Learn to let go of the things that don’t really matter.
  4. Let go of the past. It does not determine your future so why focus on it? If you feel yourself ruminating on the past make a conscious effort to take your thoughts in another direction.
  5. Benefit from the attitudes of others. Have a friend that always knows just what to say to make you feel like things will be alright? Take comfort in those around you that have positive attitudes and can make you feel better about anything going on in your life.
  6. Develop a personal mantra. No matter what you choose to repeat to yourself, make your mantra words you want to live by each and every day that can remind you to be positive and take whatever life has to offer.
  7. Find someone to share with. Knowing you are not alone can be a healing experience. Share your negative feelings with a friend, a family member or an even a mental health professional. You’ll likely feel better after you’ve gotten things off your chest and had someone to sound off with.
  8. Do something nice. Want to feel better? Try doing something nice for someone you care about. You’ll get to feel good for being nice and you just might make someone else’s day.
  9. Indulge yourself. One way to remind yourself of the positive things that life has to offer is to indulge yourself in whatever it is you love. Whether it’s a box of chocolates, a massage or a new video game, give yourself a break to relax.
  10. Remind yourself of your blessings. Whether you feel blessed by your family, your friends or even that you just have food to eat each day remind yourself of these things, however small you may feel they may be.
  11. Say thank you. Most of us have a lot to feel grateful for that we simply take for granted. Thank those in your life that make it better and happier to get a positivity boost for yourself as well.
  12. Come up with positive things about those you love. Making someone else feel good about themselves can strengthen relationships and give you a positive thought to concentrate on, instead of the negative.
  13. Avoid laying blame. So the water bill didn’t get paid. You could get mad and start a fight with your spouse or roommate. Or, you could let it go, take it in stride and work together to remedy the situation.
  14. Be playful. There’s nothing to lift your mood and change your thinking like taking some time to embrace playfulness and your inner child.

Fun and Relaxation

Don’t spend your free time feeling bad about things that have happened. Change your thoughts from the bad to the good with these helpful tips.

  1. Read an inspiring book. If you’re having trouble finding something inspiring about your life right now try getting inspired by the life of someone else by reading a book meant to inspire and uplift.
  1. Watch your favourite sappy movie. Get a quick pick me up by watching your favourite movie or just your favourite scenes. You’ll get a smile or a laugh and forget whatever was getting you down.
  2. Take a break from the news. The news is often filled with all kinds of depressing information. If you’re already in a bad mood take a night off from the news and do something that you find enjoyable instead.
  3. Engage in physical activity. Working out releases chemicals that give you a mood lift. Take a jog, play a sport or just walk around the block to improve your outlook.
  4. Listen to something upbeat. Music can be a great mood enhancer. Whether you’re driving in your car or hanging out at home, crank up the tunes with something that makes you feel happy.
  5. Monitor your stream of consciousness. When you’re just sitting and thinking do negative thoughts overtake everything else? Monitor where your mind goes when it’s at rest and learn to redirect your thoughts towards happier memories.
  6. Engage in activities that work towards your goals. If you’re trying to lose weight don’t spend the weekend baking cookies that will only tempt you towards falling off the low-cal wagon. Instead, pump yourself up by going on a hike, playing tennis with a friend or just getting active.
  7. Concentrate on breathing. When things just seem to be too much to deal with, try concentrating on simply breathing. It will relax you, eliminate some of your anxiety and allow you to focus on more positive elements in your life.
  8. Focus on all the fun in your life. While you might spend 40 hours a week slaving away behind a desk you likely have some things in your life that are fun and enjoyable as well. Focus on these things and spend time thinking of new and exciting ways to have fun when you’re feeling down.
  9. Explore the world around you. Distract yourself from your negative feelings by embracing your sense of adventure. Check out a part of town you have never been to, take a day trip to a local winery, or just spend time reliving the happy memories from things around your house.
  10. Get excited. Even if there are a million things you’re dreading doing come Monday try to find one thing that you’re excited about. Even that one thing can have a big impact on how you feel and how you approach your day.
  11. Find something to laugh about. If you don’t have anything in your day that’s been particularly funny, think about a memory that never fails to make you laugh. It’s hard to be negative when you’re laughing and smiling.
  12. Countdown to total relaxation. All of us have been so upset or frustrated at some point that we just feel like we want to explode. If you feel yourself reaching this point, stop, and start counting. For an additional bonus, try relaxing each body part in turn as you count so you end up completely relaxed and ready to think logically.
  13. Meditate. The benefits of meditation are many, and one of them can be encouraging positive thinking. By clearing your mind and relaxing you can push out a large amount of negativity that may be troubling you.
  14. Think of 100 things you enjoy doing. Feeling like your life is one big, horrible sinkhole at the moment? Sit yourself down and try to come up with a list of things that you enjoy doing. Even small things like taking a hot shower or enjoying a walk in the snow can make you realize that your life isn’t so bad after all.
  15. Create something. Negativity inspires a lot of destructive feelings and one way to counter that is by working to create something instead. Paint or draw, sew some new curtains, build a model or even put together a puzzle.
  16. Imagine yourself in a happy place. Visualization can be a powerful tool and you can use it to remove yourself from whatever situation you feel unhappy into one that makes you smile. Just close your eyes and imagine whatever makes you feel best.

Facing Challenges

Everyone has to face challenges in their lives from time to time. Whether they’re difficult personal goals to meet or unexpected problems these tips can help you make it through with a smile on your face.

  1. Fake it till you make it. One way to deal with a challenge is to create a feeling of confidence and happiness in yourself. At first, this feeling might not be real, but over time you’ll start to actually feel happier and maybe even closer to your goal.
  2. Believe you will get well. Those facing illnesses can feel a sense of hopelessness and fear. These feelings aren’t going to help anything. Concentrate on getting better and living each moment as if you will soon be well.
  3. Understand the obstacles are there to challenge you. Along with your path to success, you’re going to encounter some roadblocks. Understand that these aren’t necessarily there to stop you from doing what you want, just to ensure that you truly want it.
  4. Picture yourself at the weight you want to be. Losing weight can be a huge challenge, even for the most determined. Picturing yourself at the weight you want to be can be a great motivator to getting you on the track to success.
  5. Start small. Working at a huge goal all at once can be overwhelming and sometimes discouraging. Take things one step at a time and chip away at your ultimate goal until you get there.
  6. Don’t let yourself quit. Giving up is usually taking the easy way out of a situation. No matter how negative you’re feeling, never let yourself quit pursuing something you truly want. You’ll thank yourself in the long run if you don’t give up.
  7. Don’t expect change to be easy. No one ever promised that making a big change in your life would be easy or that overcoming obstacles would be a walk in the park. It’s not supposed to be. Don’t let opposition let you lose your confidence and adopt a negative attitude.
  8. Find the bright side. Every cloud has a silver lining and you just need to find yours. Try finding the bright spot amidst all the turmoil surrounding a situation and focus on that to get you through.
  9. Understand that the situation is not forever. Even if you’re dealing with the grief of a lost loved one, remember that in time you will feel better. You may always feel sad about a loss, but it will only get easier as time goes on. Take it day by day and keep in mind the transience of any bad situation.
  10. Truly believe you will succeed. If you want an extra edge on success, believe that you will be successful. This may give you the confidence and assurance you need to make the difference.
  11. Face up to change. The world is constantly changing and you and those around you are changing as well. Make peace with these changes and understand they don’t always mean the end of happiness just because they’re something different.
  12. Make a conscious decision to be resilient. In life, you can either let a challenge break you down and make you see the world in a negative light or you can draw on the strength you didn’t even know you had and rise above it. Choose the latter– it’s never too late.
  13. Take it head-on. Sometimes the best way to deal with negative things in your life is to take them head-on. Reaching a resolution or at least working towards one will likely make you feel better about just about any situation.
  14. Focus on finding a solution. Don’t wallow in your problems. Instead, work towards finding a solution and getting them resolved. You’ll be able to feel proactive and feel in control of your life.
  15. Don’t let the loss stop you. When pursuing any goal there are bound to be setbacks along the way. Don’t let these stop you from heading towards your ultimate goal.
  16. Keep yourself on track. It’s easy to be weak and get off track to whatever goal you’re pursuing because it’s easier right now. Don’t let weakness get the best of you– you’ll only feel worse later. Provide yourself with reminders to stay in a positive mindset and stay with the program.

Daily Attitude

If you really want to change your outlook on life, try using these techniques to change how you deal with problems and see the world.

  1. See the beauty in everything. Even if you’re in the worst mood, taking the time to look at all the beautiful things that surround you in the world can provide an instant and insightful way to lift your spirits.
  2. Realize that your thoughts do not own you. Stop your negative thoughts in their tracks by realizing that you’re in charge of what you think, not the other way around.
  3. Take time to figure out what you really want. When you feel yourself feeling negative about things that you haven’t accomplished, take time to think if you really want those things. Finding out what is really important to you can help eliminate bad feelings over things that you don’t truly want.
  4. Accept the good things. Sometimes we get so caught up in the bad stuff coming our way that we forget to appreciate the good things. Take a minute to sit down and think of all the positive things that happened in your day, no matter how small.
  5. Get excited about all the possibilities that lay ahead. Even in the midst of the biggest disasters, there is a multitude of possibilities that await you to make changes or take on the world tomorrow.
  6. Believe the world is a good place. If you look at the world and only seem doom and gloom laid out in front of you you’re not doing yourself any favours. Believe the world is a good place and you’re likely to find much more ways good things can come your way.
  7. Stop making excuses. There are always a million excuses for any person not to do something even if that something can make them feel happier. Stop putting up obstacles to your happiness and ditch those lame excuses when you hear yourself making them.
  8. Don’t play the victim. Bad things happen to everyone from time to time. Pitying yourself and wanting others to feel sorry for you isn’t going to make things better. Pick yourself up and start working towards a happier future.
  9. Don’t place your future in someone else’s hands. Your future is yours alone to shape. Remember this and take control of where you’re going in life.
  10. Create realistic goals. Of course, you’re going to feel frustrated if you make your goals so unattainable that you can’t reach them no matter how hard you work. Create smaller or more realistic goals so you can feel accomplished instead of defeated each day.
  11. Choose joy. Every day when you wake up you make the choice whether to be happy or miserable. Make the choice to be happy and you’ll live a much more joyful life.
  12. Believe you can change. Everyone has qualities they don’t like about themselves and that sometimes make them feel bad about themselves. Believe you can change these things and you’ll start to see little ways that you can.
  13. Start immediately. Want to make a positive change in your life? Do it now. Putting it off just gives you time to make excuses to get started as soon as possible.
  14. Believe you deserve good things. If you don’t truly believe that you deserve good things in your life you likely aren’t going to encounter many. Believe that you are worthy for good fortune to come your way and it just might.
  15. Stop letting negative thoughts control you. Negativity can be an overwhelming emotion, one that can make you feel out of control and unhappy in every aspect of your life. Put a stopper on these negative thoughts and take control of how you’re feeling.
  16. Smile. Sometimes all it takes to feel good is to put a smile on your face. Practice putting on a happy face even when you just feel so-so.
  17. Take control of your decisions. You’re the boss of what is going on in your life, even when you feel like you don’t have a choice. Take back control of your decisions and make the choice to be happier and more positive.
  18. Change your vibe. Some people think that you get back what you put out, so stop putting out bad energy and change to a more positive outlook. Whether it truly works or not doesn’t matter, you’ll feel better either way.
  19. Keep the bad out. You’re in control of the good and bad you choose to let into your life. When you can, limit a number of negative things you let into your life, including your thoughts.
  20. Make positive thinking a habit. Don’t just practice thinking positively when you’re feeling down. Make it an everyday occurrence whether you’re in a good mood or bad.
  21. Decide why you want what you want. If you’re feeling upset because you feel like you aren’t achieving the things you want in life, take a moment to sit back and figure out the reasons you actually want those things. You may find you’re not as attached to them as you think.
  22. Look at things with fresh eyes. Sometimes the best thing you can do is to sleep on a problem so you can look at it the next day when you’re not feeling so emotional.

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Muhammad Ali: How He Became Champion?

Polly Stevens



Muhammad Ali How He Became Champion

“If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it – then I can achieve it.”
― Muhammad Ali

Can achievement be broken down into steps? It isn’t always that clean and easy, but those who achieve great things usually go through much of the same process, with many of the items listed below as part of that process. So if you have been struggling with achievement, look through the following. Start applying them as  Muhammad Ali and you will be on the road to achieving your dream.

Step 1: Dream it. Everything begins in the heart and mind. Every great achievement began in the mind of one person. They dared to dream, to believe that it was possible.

“Live everyday as if it were your last because someday you’re going to be right.”

Step 2: Believe it. Yes, your dream needs to be big. It needs to be something that is seemingly beyond your capabilities. But it also must be believable.

“I’m a fighter. I believe in the eye-for-an-eye business. I’m no cheek turner. I got no respect for a man who won’t hit back. You kill my dog, you better hide your cat.”

Step 3: See it. The great achievers have a habit.

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.”

Step 5: Plan it. Every dream must take the form of a plan.

“Don’t count the days, make the days count.”

Step 6: Work it. If you work on it each day, eventually you will achieve your dream.

“I hated every minute of training, but I said, ‘Don’t quit. Suffer now and live the rest of your life as a champion’.”

Step 7: Enjoy it. When you have reached your goal and you are living your dream, be sure to enjoy it.

“Champions aren’t made in gyms. Champions are made from something they have deep inside them-a desire, a dream, a vision. They have to have the skill, and the will. But the will must be stronger than the skill.”

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6 Evening Habits of Successful People

Neil D. Griffin



5 Evening Habits of Successful People Bill Gates

To ensure you never fall behind, I’ve compiled a list of the evening habits of a few highly successful people. Incorporating these into your daily routine will give the strength and introspection to make a real difference. Here are some of the evening habits of successful people.

1. President Barack Obama’s next-day preparation

5 Evening Habits of Successful People

Whether due to his nature or the demands of his job, President Obama often spends a few hours each evening analyzing the following day’s schedule and tasks. He gets a thorough idea of the next day’s run down so that he can be as prepared as possible to make smart, informed decisions on a repeat basis the following day. If tomorrow is known to be a hectic day, go through your schedule the day before and visualize what success means in each scenario.

2. Fashion designer Vera Wang’s free associative period

vera wang 5 evening Habits of successful people

After checking emails from her staff, Vera Wang allots a portion of her evening to simple free-form thinking about design. Because of its unguided nature, this allows her to simultaneously decompress while also providing opportunity for that “Aha!” moment that many creatives constantly pursue. At the end of the day, you would do well to allow yourself to unwind. You may naturally think about work, but try not to take action unless a major epiphany strikes.

3. Buffer CEO Joel Gascoigne’s walking habit

Joel Gascoigne evening habits

Each evening, regardless of the day’s events, Buffer CEO Joel Gascoigne takes a 20 minute walk, one that he has worked to associate with shutting his mind and body down for sleep. Gascoigne uses walking to, “reach a state of tiredness,” so think of a way to incorporate activity to bring your mind to a state of rest. Many great minds have used walking as a tool, and it could easily be incorporated into any schedule.

4. Microsoft CEO Bill Gates’ reading habit

5 Evening Habits of Successful People Bill Gates

Bill Gates spends an hour before bed reading every day. Doing so helps to relieve stress levels and to boost cognitive function, all the while creating new knowledge from which the next great innovation might spring.

Spend some time every night before bed reading on any subject. The stimulation can work wonders for creating new connections between work and play, bringing you one step closer to the next big break.

5. Ariana Huffington’s shutting down of her phone

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Many workaholics have a hard time turning off their phone for the night, but the ones that do advocate for this process. After passing out from exhaustion on one occasion, Huffington has become an advocate for leaving the phone off and away from her while sleeping. Others, including Facebook leader Sheryl Sandburg, would agree with Huffington’s habits. It is often said that the bright lights of cell phones trick the human brain into thinking it’s awake, so shut it down unless you want to be up all night.

6. Podcaster Alex Blumburg’s family discussion time.

5 evening habits of successful people Alex Blumburg

In an episode of his new hit podcast “Startup,” former NPR producer Alex Blumburg speaks of his desire to spend a significant amount of time with his young wife Nasneen. The entire series is a collection of the insights and work it takes to start a business, and Blumburg, while desiring more than anything to succeed at starting his own company, also makes sure he carves out time to discuss how his work is affecting his family and his wife. Make sure that your choices about work incorporate the opinions of your family, and you will be better off.

What habits do you have that kick start your next day? Is it a certain exercise routine? A specific time frame in which you must brush your teeth? Share it with us, we are always looking for feedback from our community.


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GRANDPA’S RULES: 7 Rules for success in life and business!

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I always smile when I think of him and I think of him often. Perry Gilbert (P.G.) Harris was my grandfather and he taught me the 7 rules for success in life and business.

In my life I’ve had the pleasure of meeting, working with or mentoring under some of the legendary personal and business development minds in history. I’ve learned a ton from their teaching. But, all in all, my value system and my work ethics come directly from the teaching of my Grandfather. P.G. Harris was a farmer, a wheat farmer in Sumner County, in the state of Kansas, USA.

The landscape was stuff of poems and song, rolling prairie as far as the eye can see with wheat fields for miles and miles. And P.G. Harris fit the landscape. He was tall and lanky and tough. He always wore bib overalls, farmers’ boots, a farmers’ hat and had a farmers tan.

My Grandfather worked about 600 acres of wheat and pasture land and I worked with him from the time I was old enough to work. He was known as a successful farmer and a pretty good businessman. And, he had rules. As I grow older and begin to reflect on life I also began to realize that Grandpa’s Rules applied to more than farming, they applied to the art of business and life.  Surprisingly, I also realized that along the way I had taken his rules and adapted them to modern day business applications. So far I have recorded 16 separate “Grandpa’s Rules” that I’ve adapted and use every day.

Here are just 7 of the Grandpa Rules;

GRANDPA’S RULES: 7 Rules for success in life and business!

  1. (Effort) “Hard work never hurt anyone so get busy!”

He taught me my most valuable skill and that was a powerful work ethic. I believe that a work ethic is one of the most desired skills that an employer looks for. Too many people just don’t get it and want big pay for little effort, and that’s not the reality for success in this life anyway. In fact I believe that a solid work ethic is an important SKILL that employers find extremely valuable.


  1. (Goals) “The world doesn’t owe you a thing; you’ve got to earn it!”

Congratulations if your family has money or if you’ve won the lottery, but if you wait for the phone to ring with your “big” opportunity, I’ll look for you in the welfare line. It’s important to learn early that you will earn everything that you get in life through clarity of what you want out of life, then, add in hard work; dedication; focus; commitment; passion; discipline and an ongoing personal development program.  The old adage is still as true today as it was a hundred years ago, the harder you work the luckier you get!


  1. (Pride) “Whatever you do in life, whatever it is, be the best. If you’re a ditch digger for the county you had better win the award for the best ditch digger in the county!”

There is a certain amount of pride that defines a job well done. The rule always reflects a level of personal values and honor that will reflect on you for years to come. Basically if you’re in a job that you don’t like for whatever reasons, you have two choices. The first is to slack off, work half heartedly and gripe and moan about the boss; the job; the business; co-workers and on and on. Or, according to Grandpa’s teachings, just shut up and do your job and do it well. Even though you might not enjoy what you’re doing, you owe the company a day of focused work, even your best work without complaint. They’re still paying you, right? Then when you can you find something different to do. Be proud of what you’re doing even if it’s not ideal.  The right people will always eventually notice which choice you make.

  1. (Quality) “The job isn’t complete until it’s done right!”

In a certain part of Kansas, this statement is known as “PERRY’s RULE”. To this day it is still referred to. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been working all day and you’re tired. You should never ever be satisfied with a job that’s incomplete or just pieced together. The only job that is truly done and complete and one you can be proud of is one that’s done right! So, according to the rule, you do it until it is.

  1. (Effort) “Never do a job “Half-Fast”

Granddad would tolerate my mistakes, bad judgment and plain old screw ups as long as I was working hard and going full speed. This rule revolved around the idea that all is forgivable as long as you were working hard and you learned something from the issue. However, he had no time for problems caused by mistakes when someone was moving slow, half-hearted, without purpose or initiative or “Half-Fast” (read between the lines).


  1. (Accountability) “Your word is your bond!”

Your entire value as a human being is based on the value of your word. If you say you’re going to do something then he expected you to do it. If you agreed on a time to meet or a time to start he expected you to be there.  If you broke it, he expected you to fix it. If you shook hands on a deal, he expected you to stand by it. If you didn’t, you seldom got more chances.  The world is a better place only if everyone held themselves accountable


  1. (Empathy) “Look for the good in everyone”

Grandpa’s message was simple. It’s easy to find fault in people. This approach always then leads to ridicule and negative relations. I never once heard him say a bad word about anyone. He lived his belief. He always looked through the potential negatives and looked for a good and common ground.

In 1971 I was one of the first young people to come home from college with long hair. This discretion caused quite the uproar in my small town, to a point that my father told me to get a haircut or leave. I was very upset and jumped in my car and as requested, I left. On the way I stopped by the farm to get counsel from Grandpa. I asked him what he thought about the issue. I will never forget what he told me. True to his rules he looked at me and simply said, “I guess it’s what’s under the hair that counts.”

Today, over 40 years later, ironically I have no hair, but I think about that line nearly everyday. The foundational truths to Grandpa’s Rules apply to success in business today as much as success in life. And, as long as I do what I do, I will continue to live and teach, with pride, “Grandpa’s Rules”.

Be Great

Coach Dan

About Dan Creed

Danny P. (Dan) Creed is an award winning international business and executive coach; entrepreneur; best-selling author; world class keynote & workshop speaker; trusted advisor and CEO of FocalPoint Business Coaching of Arizona. Coach Dan is based in Phoenix Arizona but works with a worldwide customer base. He is a recognized expert in sales, management, marketing, business development and business growth strategies.

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